‘I put my baby to bed at midnight – people judge but it’s convenient for me’

Finding a bedtime routine that works for your baby can take some time.

Some parents get lucky and have their babies sleeping all through the night, while others wake up every hour.

But one woman who shared what works for her baby has divided opinions online.

Mum-of-two Victoria shared a video on TikTok ( @toriyav ) listing the things that she does with her baby that other people might find weird, like putting her to bed at 12am.

This encouraged someone to ask: “Is there a reason you put her to bed at 12am?”

Victoria responded to the question in a follow-up video.

“Why I put my baby to bed at 12am,” she says in the clip that has since been viewed more than 2.2 million times.

“I never understood why parents would put their babies to bed at 7pm,” she says.

“That just means when they have their full 12 hours of sleep, they would wake up at 7am.

“And us being stay-at-home parents, this isn’t very necessary.

“As long as the baby has their needed amount of sleep, the time you put them to bed doesn’t matter. This is a man-made thing.

“So she sleeps from 12am-1pm and that’s what works for our family.”

Since being posted, the video has received almost 80,000 likes and 5,200 comments from people who were split about the idea.

One person said: “Yeah no babies aren’t meant for that… it’s your job as parents to make sure they’re getting a healthy sleep schedule and this is not it.”

Another wrote: “So basically, you’ve decided to give the baby the cycle of an unhealthy teen so you don’t have to parent for the first six hours of the day.”

A third commented: “And when do you have time for your husband when she won’t go to bed until midnight?”

Someone else put: “You’re setting her circadian rhythms now for the rest of her life it’s not about what’s convenient to you.”

Circadian rhythms are 24-hour cycles that are part of the body’s internal clock, running in the background to carry out essential functions and processes, says Parenting Science, with one of the most important and well-known circadian rhythms being the sleep-wake cycle.

Many others TikTokers agreed with Victoria, and admitted they do the same as her.

One said: “90 per cent of the moms in these comments just mad cuz they woke up at 6 this morning.” [sic].

“Only matters when they are school aged. You do you mama,” said a second users.

While a third TikToker commented: “Please normalise this. 1000000% agree we don’t need to conform to society’s timings.”

Victoria addressed criticism in a follow-up video where she assured viewers theres nothing wrong with her daughter’s circadian rhythm.

She said: “Bedtime is a social construct and ‘circadian rhythm’ only exists because of society. You don’t need to put your kids to bed at 8pm to be successful.”